BBW Dating Tips: How to Stand Out and Stay Safe Online

Online dating can feel harder than it should when you are plus size. Profiles that get ignored, awkward messages and the odd rude comment can wear anyone down. The good news is that a few simple habits make a big difference. These BBW dating tips will help you stand out, stay safe and meet people who appreciate you exactly as you are.

At Shag a Fatty we are built for plus size singles and the people who love them, so these tips come from what we see working.

Choose photos that show the real you

Your photos are the first thing people notice. Use a clear, recent head shot with a genuine smile, and at least one full length photo so nobody feels misled. Show your hobbies, your friends and your style. Good light and a relaxed pose do more than any filter. Hiding your body or using old photos only causes awkward moments later.

Write a profile that sounds like you

A good profile is short, warm and specific. Say what you love, what you are looking for and something that gives people a way to start a chat, such as a favourite place, a film or a daft hobby. Avoid long lists of things you do not want. Keep it positive.

Be clear about what you want

Whether you want something serious, something casual or just to see what is out there, say so. It saves time and attracts the right people. If you prefer something relaxed, read our guide on BBW casual dating.

Start conversations well

• Mention something from their profile, so they know you read it.
• Ask an open question, not just “hi”.
• Keep early messages friendly and light.
• If someone is rude or disrespectful, block them and move on.

Do not settle for less than respect

You deserve someone who is proud to be seen with you. Be wary of anyone who wants to keep things secret, comments on your body in a way that makes you uncomfortable or pressures you to move fast. The right person will not make you feel like a secret.

Stay safe

1. Chat on the platform until you feel comfortable.
2. Meet in a public place for the first date.
3. Tell a friend where you are going and when you expect to be home.
4. Arrange your own transport.
5. Trust your instincts. If something feels off, leave.

If you are shy

You are not alone. Plenty of members feel nervous about getting started. Take it slowly, chat for a while and meet when you are ready. Our page on shy BBW dating has more help.

Try free options first

If you want to try things out without spending money, our guide to free BBW dating explains what is available. On Shag a Fatty, women date free.

Know your worth and keep your sense of humour

Confidence is attractive, and so is laughing at yourself a little. Not every date will go well, but each one teaches you something. Keep going, keep it fun and remember that the right match is out there.

Frequently asked questions

What is the best first message on a dating site?

Something personal and friendly, which shows you read their profile. A simple question works well.

Should I mention my size in my profile?

You do not have to, but being honest and relaxed about it often helps. Clear photos do the talking.

How do I deal with rude messages?

Do not engage. Block and report the person, and focus on the people who are respectful.

How long should I chat before meeting?

Many people chat for a few days to a couple of weeks. Meet when you feel comfortable.

Start Meeting People on Shag a Fatty

Women date free, and men pay one yearly fee of £39, with no monthly subscriptions. If you are ready to meet someone who appreciates you, join Shag a Fatty today.