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Shagbook Alternative: Why Plus-Size Singles Try Shag a Fatty

If you have landed here after searching for Shagbook, you are probably looking for somewhere new to meet people, and you want it to feel welcoming. This guide covers what to compare and why some plus-size singles try a shagbook alternative called Shag a Fatty.

A quick note first. We are not connected with Shagbook and we cannot speak for how it works, so everything below is about what to look for and what we offer ourselves.

Why people look for a different site

People switch sites for ordinary reasons. Some want a place that was built with plus-size singles in mind, rather than a general site where they feel like an afterthought. Some are tired of paying every month. Others simply want to meet people who live nearby, in their own country, who want the same sort of thing.

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What to compare before you switch

Before you join anywhere new, compare these things side by side. That is the real test of any Shagbook alternative.

Price. Is it a monthly subscription, a yearly fee or free? Check what happens when it renews.
Who it is for. Does the site welcome BBW and BHM, and people who adore them?
Safety. Are profiles checked, and can you block and report people easily?
Local members. Can you set your area and see people close to you?
Clear rules. Is it for adults only, with respectful behaviour expected?

What Shag a Fatty offers instead

Shag a Fatty is made for BBW, BHM and the people who adore them. Women date free, always. Men pay £39 once for the whole year, with no monthly fees. Every profile is checked by hand before it goes live, the site is for adults aged 18 and over only, and you set your area so the closest members come first.

If cost is your main concern, our guide to free BBW dating explains exactly who pays what. If you want a relaxed, no-pressure style of meeting, read our tips on BBW casual dating first.

A Shagbook alternative in Australia, Ireland and South Africa

Plenty of people searching for Shagbook are outside the UK, so we have pages for those countries too. You can browse BBW dating in Australia, Ireland and South Africa, with city pages for Sydney, Melbourne, Brisbane, Perth, Dublin, Cork, Johannesburg and Cape Town.

In the UK, our plus-size dating guide covers what to expect and where to start.

How to try a new site safely

Whichever site you try, a few habits keep you comfortable.

Use a photo and details you are happy for people to see.
Keep chatting on the site until you feel you know the person.
Meet in a public place first, and tell a friend where you will be.
Never send money to someone you have not met.

How to think about your first month on a new site

Switching sites can feel like starting from scratch, but it does not have to. Give yourself a month to settle in. Spend the first few days setting up your profile properly, then aim to send a couple of thoughtful messages each week rather than dozens in one evening. People respond to effort, and a small number of good conversations beats a long list of dead ends.

What makes a good plus-size dating community

The size of a site matters less than how it feels to use. A good community is respectful, clear about its rules, and quick to deal with anyone who behaves badly. You should feel that you are among people who like you as you are, not people who are putting up with your size.

That is the thinking behind Shag a Fatty. It is made for BBW, BHM and the people who adore them, so nobody has to apologise for who they are. Every profile is checked by hand before it goes live.

How to move your search over without starting again

If you already have a profile somewhere else, you can reuse most of the work.

Bring across your best two or three photos, and add a newer one if you have it.
Rewrite your bio in your own words rather than pasting the old one. A fresh start often reads better.
Set your area so you are shown the people closest to you first.
Be clear about what you want, whether that is something serious or something relaxed.

Find people near you with our city pages

To see what is on offer where you live, take a look at our local pages. In the UK you will find BBW dating in London, Manchester and Birmingham, along with many more cities. There are also pages for the USA, with cities such as New York, Los Angeles and Chicago.

Each page has a short local guide with ideas for where to meet and where to go on a first date.

Why a yearly fee instead of a monthly one

A yearly fee suits most people better than a monthly subscription. You pay once and you know the cost, there is no automatic charge to forget about, and there is no monthly nudge to upgrade to something more expensive. For women there is no fee at all.